James, a student in our Redirecting Children's Behavior parenting class, grimaced as he told the group that he felt he was loosing his fourteen-year-old daughter, Brittany. He continued, "She either glares at me or rolls her eyes when I try talk to her." James was not getting the relationship he wanted with his daughter because he was either asking her if she got her chores done, telling her what she needed to be doing or checking up on her homework. (She was doing summer sch
"My kids are fighting so often I just want to pull my hair out!" "They are supposed to love each other. I just don't get it." "I feel like I could be replaced by a recording yelling, STOP FIGHTING! (Not that it would do any good!) These are some comments I hear from the frustrated parents I coach sharing their feelings about their kidos fighting this summer. Speaking from experience, I know dealing with kid's fighting can be gut wrenching and exhausting. However, try reframin
Ten-year-old Amy's job is to clean the bathroom. She gets frustrated after giving little effort and says, "Why should I have to clean the bathroom, it's not fair!" Jason's job is to mow the lawn. He's got a test to study for and Dad is tempted to let him off the hook because Jason is not doing well in that subject. Sound familiar? The pressure you feel from your children may cause you to feel confused and insecure about your parenting. There are many compelling reasons why we
Our daughter, Brianna, was laying on the couch with her ear buds on doing the typical teenage "thing." Brian, my husband started pestering her about something she hadn't done. Brianna rolled her eyes and continued to listen to her music. Brian's tone of voice escalated and I knew this was not going anywhere good. So I pulled my hubby aside and asked him what he needed. He thought for a moment and said, "I guess what I really need is to connect with our daughter. I miss her."